There is nothing more special and important in our lives and in society than being a real parent. Ya, I’m what some would call “traditional,” but only in the sense that I believe and know to be true about the roles and responsibility of the father and mother. So let me get some of your judgemental thoughts addressed.
I believe that men and women are and should be equals in the family. Equals in value, meaning, and worth. However, they each have unique roles and responsibility within the family unit. BUT each role and responsibility is equally important and equally valuable. This belief is directly tied to my faith and what I have seen and experienced that is produced and increased the quality of life in children.
As a male and the father of children, I have a specific role and specific responsibility that I will be held accountable for according to my faith. Some fathers may suck at being a father and the mother has to compensate and at times fill in as the father figure; but that father will still be held accountable for their lack of fathering.
It’s actually, ideologically, quit simple. Fathers are responsible for providing for and protecting the family unit. They set the example of how a real man, according to their faith, is and should be. His role as provider is to ensure the family unit has all the basic protections and resources needed to be secure and empowered. He also provides for the emotional security of the family, not just the physical or material. A true father is selfless and self sacrificially loving, caring, and strong. He provides the stability for the family unit to grow and mature in the society.
His role as the protector is just that. He protects the physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional livelihood of the family unit. He protects the family from outside external pressures and even from internal. The safety and security of the family supersedes his own self. He is the ultimate example of selfless sacrificial love.
Now, of course, not all fathers are perfect. Not all fathers are good fathers. But, all fathers, are in fact fathers. All fathers will be held accountable for what kind of father they were. Know that!
I love being a father. I’d rather be a father of chaotic difficult children than not be a father at all. It’s hard to explain. The feeling you are filled with the moment you hold your new born baby in your arms: the feeling of being able to kill another person with your bear hands to protect the life of your new born child… With that said, being a father is a privilege in this life. A privilege that some pathetic fathers take for granted; and will pay dearly for failing at it later…
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